Open House
for
Outgoing Bishopric
6:30-7:30pm
Sunday the 23rd
Past:
Guilt comes from the
past; regret, frustration, anger comes from guilt. If we constantly
beat ourselves down, then we are spending our time in the past and we
become depressed. When we are irrational or unreasonable, thinking about
the future or anticipating bad outcomes, then
we are stressed out and our anxiety rises. If there is baggage in the
past, then we aren’t dealing with it. Instead, think about what you are
going to do about it now, in order to close the gap and focus on what
you can do. What we can control is the present. This
is where we need to put our focus. We can learn from the past, and a
certain amount of anxiety helps us prepare for the future, but the
present is where we take control and find peace.
Present:
Reality exists
here. The great motivator is love. “Some of the most authentic and real
and lovable people I have ever met are spending their time in the
present.”
How
many of us have one plan, and when that fails, we bail or freak out? A
backcountry snowboarder Brother
Manning has worked with planned his descent down the extremely steep
mountain, but figured if his trail happened to create an avalanche he
would change to his backup plan; and if that didn’t work, he had yet
another plan. So there was no reason to be afraid
since he gave himself options.
We
need to set goals, but they need to be good goals - the right goals –
not outrageous goals. Set goals which
are a little beyond our reach. These create some anxiety, but not so
much that they overwhelm us. Set goals that we can do, and when we do
better the result will take care of itself. We need to set goals that
stretch us, but not stress us. A stressful goal
creates fear and doubt.
We prepare for the future, but we live in the present. You can’t hear the Spirit when you are focused on guilt
or fear, but you can hear the spirit in the present. 3 Ne 13:34, “take no thought for the morrow…sufficient is the day…”
If we stay focused on the present, then there is no guilt or fear that can enter in—rather, you have a sense
of control—because you are staying focused in the moment, in the present.
Future: Fear. If you keep thinking about something in
the future, anxiety is ruling your actions. Instead, if you focus on what you can do
now in order to make that future change, you are doing and acting. You are in the present dealing with reality not with what-if's.
Summary:
Dwelling on the past is a source of guilt, anger, and/or depression.
Dwelling
in the future is a source of fear or anxiety. The present is reality
and the place where we have control. This is the place where we can be
happy, at peace, and in tune with the spirit. The past and future are
good for review and for goal setting, but should
not dominate our thoughts or limit our actions in the present. |